Healing Requires Ownership

Ownership.
We hear that word everywhere, and honestly? It gets thrown around so much it starts to lose meaning. But the moment I realized healing required ownership… whew. That was the moment everything shifted for me.

For a long time, it was easy to point at what someone else did.
And listen, some of it was real.
The pain was real.
The betrayal was real.
The neglect was real.

But at some point, I had to stop replaying what he did… and look at what I allowed.

Not to shame myself.
Not to blame myself.
But to free myself.

Because healing doesn’t happen when you’re busy holding someone else accountable.
Healing begins when you start holding yourself accountable.

There came a moment, and I remember it so clearly, where I had to say,
“Angel… you hurt yourself too.”

Because I stayed when I should’ve left,
I silenced myself when I should’ve spoken,
I lied to myself to keep peace, that didn’t even exist,
And I chose shame when grace was sitting right there waiting for me.

That was ownership.

Not the dictionary definition.
Not the cute lesson.
But the real, gut-level, “Lord, show me me” kind of ownership.

And once I started doing that?
My whole life began to shift.

My thoughts changed.
My habits changed.
My relationships changed.

Because I changed.

In Love Endures All: The Journey, I’m not just telling you what happened. I’m showing you the moments where I had to take ownership of myself. And that’s what transformed my journey.

So now I’m turning the question back to you:

Where do you need to take ownership?

Not blame.
Not shame.
Just truth.

What would your life look like if you finally owned your part, not to beat yourself up, but to free yourself?

Healing begins with one brave moment.
And that moment starts with ownership.