The Journey isn’t a blame story…

This version of Love Endures All: The Journey is different from the one I wrote ten years ago.
Back then, the book felt like I was talking to my diary, for real like giving someone a snapshot of what happened, moment by moment. It was raw. Honest. Immediate.

But, this version?
This one is cinematic. Reflective.
It’s me looking back at the journey with healed eyes instead of wounded ones.

When I revisited the story, I didn’t just ask:
“What happened to me?”
I also asked:
“Who was I in these moments? What choices did I make? How did I contribute to the dynamic?”

Because the truth is, it’s natural to look at what the other person did wrong.

And sometimes that blame is valid.

Hurt is real. Betrayal is real. Broken trust is real.

But healing doesn’t begin with:
“Look at what they did.”
Healing begins with:
“Lord… show me me.”

When I finally started looking inward, even while I was still in the relationship, something shifted. I stopped modeling my reactions after my pain and started modeling them after the Bible.
Not perfectly.
Not instantly.
But intentionally.

And over time, my thoughts changed.
My habits changed.
My heart changed.

Then eventually… my relationships changed too.

This book isn’t a blame story.
It’s a mirror story.
A story that invites you to ask the hard questions of yourself — not to shame you, but to free you.

So let me ask you:

What part of your healing requires you to look inward?

How might your situation shift if you let God deal with you first?

Your journey doesn’t begin with blame.
It starts with courage.